Conflict or distrust between sexes?

Published by V1ny@ | Filed under Love is...

I believe that everybody want to believe that love is some fundamental factor, and hostility is an accidental circumstance. But under the huge spreading of mess in love relations, one can ask a question, what can be the reason of the conflict? And why do misunderstandings take part which can turn into the opened confrontation? Personally I would like to figure out everything.

The atmosphere of suspiciousness and the lack of belief in your chosen one are not dealing with particular partner, but with the inability to cope with your emotional reactions. Emotions – that is the word that has a more appeal to women… But according to my experience I can tell you that men are also emotional creatures. Oh, sorry, I have digressed from the topic, let’s go.

Person doesn’t always recognize how less he gives to his second half, but easily discovers this defect of his partner feeling the following “You have never loved me”. I am sure that you had such kind of situation.

A wife, that is cherishing the mind of taking a vengeance on her husband that doesn’t pay all his attention and love to her, doesn’t notice how much of aggression and hostility is expressed in her aim. Each of us periodically forgets about personal hostile impulses and attaches them to his partner.

Such process by no means provokes the distrust to the love of the partner. Suspiciousness concerning the loyalty and sincerity sometimes takes obtrusive forms. Understanding the ability of free and easy rest on the side, each person understands that his second half may do the same. The fear of love is always mixed with the fear of evil that we could make to the others, and vice versa. And then an exhausting race with a pursuit starts.

Another source of suspiciousness in a usual love life – is the fact that if love appeared, than it plays with us being a source of happiness, as implementation of our sacred dreams. A person is always discrepant in love matters, he tries to solve all his internal conflicts and tries to fulfill all his sacred dreams.

This kind of love is always intended to our personal expectations and fantasies. That is not love to another person in a direct meaning, but love to yourself.

Another reason of distrust is the idea of a person that might correspond to ideal views about ideal love. This way the partner is entrusted huge requests. Partner might be strong and at the same time helpless, lead and be leaded, be severe and perceptional. He might aggressor while sex and at the same time tender, and he also might give us all his time and the same time work, work and work.

While we think that he can fulfill all our dreams, our chosen one is surrounded by the halo of sexuality. We don’t notice that this halo is just the reflection of our expectations. Here is the source of our disappointments, when the reality takes it rights, our illusions collapse and the partner appear to be just the way he is.

Confidence is yourself, the feeling of the inner strength and meaningfulness, the absence of fears of your dependence on your lovely man lets you save and strengthen your relations.

If there is a low self-appraisal inside and the fear to lose a partner, than a paralysis of awareness appear, we appear in the jaws of unconscious conflict.

Soul doesn’t give a warranty service coupon on loyalty and devotion along with a partner. That is a question of a private maturity and identification of internal fears.

Love is a big responsibility not only for the partner, but for personal predictability and wish to understand what’s going on with you at this moment. From such deep depths a huge monster comes out and it wants to destroy your life.

Love is a also a choice of each free person, that loves himself that much, that he is ready to love somebody else, to give as much love and freedom to his partner as he can.